A confession
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To all those that know me, or want to know me, like and dislike me, and ignore me yet you read this anyway, I have a confession to make.
I "bull" people. It's a habit. It's a compulsion, and a degrading force in my life, that I sadly cannot rid myself of. Whenever I see someone say or do something I don't like, I just have to moo at them, and charge at them with my forehead. I can't help look for cows either, it's a bulling thing. Occasionally i gore people with my horns, and moo as if I did nothing wrong. And the things i do in china shops...I just cannot be forgiven. Those poor gravy boats. I am so ashamed. Mmmm....gravy.
Anyway. It's easy to have a battle of wits with unarmed people, and in this case I'm quite pleased to have Kyrielle lumped in with me as a fellow buller. Would she be a cowwer? She'd be udderly competent at whatever she chooses to be, I'm sure. No, I'm not picking on her, it was a word i just had to use, i know it was cheesy to do...i did it again, didn't i? Sorry, it's hard to control. So, to distract myself from further puns, on with the thing i wanted to talk about.
Wait, one thing first. I just thought of some kind of signature pic, of a bull and a cow in a pasture together, with some witty comment under it about bulling, cowwing, and/or gravy, with my and her names in appropriate places. I believe someone can make this happen, and hopefully someone who whined about similar things happening to her last time won't cry about this one too! At least I'm not calling her a giraffe, it'd not fit here. Giraffes don't participate in bulling.
Deleting comments from blogs, and closing comments also.
Yeah I know, here we go again, again. I'm sorry, but this sort of childish nonsense really gets under my skin. If you're going to make a blog for attention, be the decent sort and allow people to comment, and when they do, even if, especialy if you don't like it, let it stay. Deleting comments from your blog tells people you're not mature enough to handle criticism, it tells people that you're emotionally insecure. Unless that person uses curse words more often than regular speech and/or breaks the ToS agreements, then there's no real reason to do so unless you're afraid of getting your feelings hurt. Are you incapable of being articulate enough to get your point across to people in such a way that the beauty and power of your words alone prevents people from giving them healty dose of cynicism? Do you believe that people disagreeing with you means that they hate you? Do you feel that the world is better with no arguments and disagreements? What's wrong with you? Because the problem doesn't lie with other people.
Closing comments, is a bit different, but not much. If you're making an announcement, sure, but what if someone wants to ask a question and they're not on your friend list and doesn't want to go through the trouble of getting on it to message you? Some have that setting but some don't, it's situational. Other people though, prefer to make snarky blog posts from a superior (to them) tone of voice and declaim people to be lower life forms and make accusations while the original poster makes themselves a victim, or poses as the Voice of Reason for all Humankind...and closes the comments so people can't verbally knock them off their little soap box, much less ask for proof of said accusations. So everyone else concerned has to get together to decide who'll make the responding blog with a link to the closed-commented blog, asking what it was about.
(I have no idea who did it last, but I hear he's a dashing, handsome, generous Outlaw with a lot of free time and maybe money on his hands. And openings for a harem, provided they don't eat too much and bathe regularly. I in no way claim to know anything about it. Just relaying a message. Ahem.)
Then there's more victim-acting, accusations and snarkiness fly about, and eventually the staff break out the delete-hammer and bye bye blog, and perhaps people involved get a warning of sorts, if not also a temporary ban for being children in an adult setting. It's happened before, seen it done. The staff here absolutely love the gor rp folks, so much. They really do!
I'm not going to say this blog is or isn't directed at anyone, because it'd be a lie, in that if you think it's to you, then it probably is, and it'd be a waste of my and your own time for me to try to explain it isn't. So, it's totally about you, even if you've got nothing to do with it. I ain't gonna coddle you, you can either be mature and reasonable, or you can get your widdle feewings hurt and cry because i suddenly hate you because i said something you didn't like.
Such as, moo. And "Where's the beef?"
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It’s the difference of opinions that make the world go round. Sometimes when people exchange opinions or debate they may not only see another point of view, they just might understand where the other person is coming from. Can’t do that with closed comments.
No you certainly can't. But mostly it's done because the closer feels they're right and doesn't want to have to defend a rickety and weak statement somewhere in their blog/post. It's easier to...and i don't like this word...censor people than allow people to speak. You might have to admit someone else is right, and that's terrible.
Very true Master. We see that more and more these days. Real time, blogs, even private groups. Instead of allowing both sides to be heard the powers that be delete, censor or close comments. We all are not going to agree 100%, we are all not going to see things the same way, we are all not going to get along, we are not all going to like everyone. That’s just life.
Yep. I don't expect people to agree with me all the time, that's an unrealistic dream. But when i do speak, i at least try to make sure what I'm going to say has at least a little sense i can defend it with. I'm not scared to admit i'm wrong though, and it does happen once in a while. Believe it or not, i don't actually act the way i do in rooms, in public and private realityland. It's a persona, nothing more. But in either setting, i still let people speak, and try to be sensible.
Yes Master, that you do.
Be careful agreeing with me, you don't want it to be said you were bulled into saying it. Bulling is an issue now, yanno.
yanno, I could have some fun with this posting for 10 minutes then pulling it down thing... I mean, I could tell people how I REALLY feel... how often I point at them and laugh... I could post about how ridiculous they look when they do a certain thing... I could even reveal some sad truths.... then take it all back before anyone can say anything about it. I mean if we can have bulling and cowwing... why not include the whole barnyard... goosing and gandering and horsing and pigging...
I rarely agree with people, except when I do.... right now I kinda do.
lots of chickening?
Absolutely- lots of chickening.
Make sure you copy your lover with this and all the rest you do, free woman. You know, those assignations you engaged in, copied/ shared with him sans telling the " other party" and have for years? So it may take you a little longer than the " 10 minutes" you speak of. A word to the rest of you out there in role play land. In case your inclined to .....play. You are most welcome !!
And before you launch yourself into straight denial, let's refresh, shall we? Chapter and verse. Not to mention his lovely profile. Available on request. Oh yes !!
I never promised I'd not speak of that. It was never a secret that I was obliged to keep. *smiles, nods and goes on about my day*
I mean.......what's that song? 50 ways to leave your lover? Yes, that's it. But she was just a no count, wasn't she, free woman. Just a silly trusting slave, faithful as the day was long. And yet.......her trust was SO misplaced......I still feel sorry for her to this day. Anyway. Moving on.
OOps. I ALMOST forgot !! He admitted to lying about his slave, remember ? I do too !!!!!!!!!! So his word is about as golden as yours . I mention that only because your pool of denial has a concrete bottom. There ain't a DROP of water to save you in it. Happy landing !
Ruined her life. Trashed it to hell. Never did know why except he wanted to rid himself of her. Surely there were better ways? Of course there were !! After all, trust.......was the name of his game, and yours......wasn't it ? Yes......yes it was....
Anyway. I consider my due diligence required to let the " rest of the world know" has been accomplished. At least I hope so. I'll expect your apology never. You just carry on being what you have always been and I'll keep on sending up alerts as to the reality of how you actually 'play' and the world will be a better place. Amen.
Predator......free woman. Indeed ! " Everything I do, I do for his pleasure" . I've never forgotten that. Not ever. Remember when you came to my home? And I asked, are you two still together? " And your reply was...." Yes".
Some things change.....free woman. Some things just never do. Like you.
While I can't speak on what she said, I *can* say, that i'm amazed that she hasn't been deleted yet. I got bored the day before yesterday, and I was looking at blogs at the time, and i had the notion to go "back in time", search how far back pagewise i can go before I see the first Gor-related blog. And sure enough, I started seeing the first one around the 290-300's. It saddened me to see so many "account deleted"'s where names should have been. But among these announcements, and such, I...
found quite a few about you, and your man, dear. I'd say every fourth or fifth blog was. So many complaints about you interfering in other's rp's. Lots of what someone else would call, badly spelled, "bullying", though i'd simply call it attention-grubbing and backseat gaming. I wasn't looking for all this, I was looking for things to reminisce about, and for former friends' names i can tell others visited. But there was you. There was always, eventually, you.
oh my Dear Dear Kyrielle, this has always been what it was been about, hasn't it? I suppose now is as good a time as any to clue you in... I've been stringing you along to chap your arse... and I've laughed about it all along. I havent been 'with Him' since 2009. Imagine how often I've laughed hysterically whilst you pined for a man you could never have. We've both laughed about it, actually. All those times you emailed him. You might want to get on that, by the way.
You only thought you hated me all these years... now you really can.
The wasp in the jam. The corruption in the wound. And they weren't your blogs, though you did your damnest to spread your poison. I'm just giving you what you want, negative attention, because that's what you want because negative attention is still attention. I tried to be your friend, or at least an acquaintance, but you're like a Himalayan cat, sometimes pretty to look at, very affectionate when first getting attention, but then halfway through tries to take the petter's arm off just cuz.
That profile aint for my benefit, dollie, it's for yours... I wasnt here then and you know it... but you were.
I stood up for you on multiple occasions, unasked and unrewarded, because at that time i thought you were a good person, somewhat victimized, unnecessarily vilified. But time showed me, and your actions, that you're...well. You're crazy. You need help, and i even tried to give it to you, but like that cat, you tried to hurt me. But, I've got a thicker skin than you have sharp claws. I after all this time, still do not hate you. But you have some serious issues and you need to work on them.
O_o i refresh and i see lots of posts besides mine. Sorry for interrupting, Fury.
I expect all the posts will be vanishing soon enough. It's kinda traumatic when everything you've believed for a decade was one big charade .
oh no worries. I'm not the one with the bee in my bonnet currently. Ms. Viper Woman struck and missed... kinda sucks when you mash your face into the ground like that.
It is enough that we know they were here, if they vanish. I really don't hate her, feel sorry for, perhaps, because everything that's happened up to this point in gorland she did to herself, and even though she's had myriad opportunities to change, her obstinate pride and stubbornness won't allow her to bend the neck, and do what needs to be done. If she did, I would happily allow her to interact with me and mine. She *is* a good rp'er, and has the potential to add quality. But, that poison.
she's a good r/p'r when things are played by her rules and her way... if not - you are no longer acknowledged. What kind of person is honey sweet when in your presence, then 'unfriends' people for interacting with you. She's as two faced as they come. viper woman speaks with forked tongue. Today she got a dose of her own medicine - a long time coming.
I know, i've been the recipient of such treatment. I'm a forgiving person in realityland though, so i sometimes have a hard time permanently shunning people, especially if they have the potential to be a powerful force for good. She needs psychotherapy though. Or something.